Do You Have The Perfect Relationship With Your Partner?

Are you in the kind of relationship that you've always dreamt of? Or does the state of play between you and your partner leave much to be desired? And if you're not in a relationship, are you longing for the right person to come into your life but don't seem to attract them?


Everyone dreams of finding the perfect mate. We have all been brought up on fairy tales that tell us that we will live happily ever after, once we find that other person - our other half. The term itself suggests we are incomplete until we find that special someone. In fact our very well-being would seem to depend on how successful our relationships are.

Relationships - at least the good ones - enrich and enhance our lives and make us feel more alive. They are precious gifts which enable us to grow, discover more about who we are and expand into a fuller, more joyful sense of ourselves. Relationships also challenge us to look at ourselves, recognize and accept the parts of our personality that we don't like or are unaware of, and understand why we behave in certain ways.

Virtually everyone has the potential to create a brilliant relationship, no matter where you are in your life or what your personal history is. But in order to do this, you need to be willing to let go of your preconceived ideas and spend some time reading up on healthy relationship advice and getting to know what's right for you and what makes you happy.

Then you can start to focus on attracting your perfect match or bringing more sparkle into your existing relationship.

So, how do we achieve the quality of relationship we are seeking? And is this within our control? We do have a choice. We can either struggle to preserve the outdated fantasies and old models of relationships, even though they don't match reality or offer any real hope of happiness. Or we can learn to see the challenges we are currently experiencing in finding our perfect match or feeling fulfilled in our partnerships as opportunities to create a completely new concept in relationships.

If we choose the latter approach, relationships can be a way of reaching a deeper understanding of what makes us and our partners tick. That awareness enables us to be clear about what we want and how to fulfill our needs. Without that understanding we are groping in the dark. So if you're not in a relationship, how do you find love? And if you are in a relationship, how do you keep it alive and growing?

There isn't one single answer to these questions. But as you read this site think of it more like a process in which you gradually discover how to have the best relationship with yourself and your partner, or, if you are single, how to attract the right partner for you. Each article will take you deeper into the process and is designed to give you guidance, insight and inspiration on how to:

• increase your self-worth and what you feel you deserve;
• break recurring negative patterns;
• make more conscious choices when selecting a partner;
• attract your perfect match;
• master the art of keeping your relationship healthy and happy.

When we are in a fulfilling relationship, the world seems a more colorful, expansive and bountiful place. Conversely, when we long for a relationship or feel dissatisfied with the one we are in, we can feel deeply lonely and dissatisfied. That doesn't mean that you can't lead a happy and fulfilled life without a partner.

Of course you can. In fact there are times when it's important that you do. Often we need to spend time alone in order to take stock of our lives, heal and develop ourselves in our own right.

This, as we will see in a future article, is an immensely valuable and often essential commitment that we need to make to ourselves if we want to be in an intimate, balanced, respectful and loving relationship. But if we're really honest with ourselves, most of us will admit that no matter how capable we are of being on our own or how hurt we may have been in the past, being in a joyful, supportive and fulfilling relationship is what we truly desire. We want a relationship in which we can thrive and grow and, most importantly, be loved for who we are.

Take stock of your life

So first you need to be willing to take a look at yourself, your relationships both past and present and the choices that you have made to date. This can be challenging - and immensely rewarding - as well as essential if you truly desire to create a brilliant relationship. The key to a happy relationship is choosing the right person. And you can't do that until you know yourself well enough to trust your choices and discover what - and who - you really want. The more aware you become, the more control you have over your choices. In fact understanding why you make the choices you do can make or break a relationship.